In praise of staying, deliberately

Much like Penny, I’ve spent a great deal of time wondering if I should move overseas. And in an unlikely turn of events that has surprised myself more than anything, I’ve decided to give this whole Really-Deliberately-Living-In-Sydney thing a crack. Choosing to stay in a city you know like the back of your hand is hardly the…

Advice on dating apps, from a person that’s never used one

It’s completely bizarre to me that I have been in a relationship since before dating apps were a thing. The idea of being able to swipe left on someone is something that didn’t exist when my partner and I got together, and I often wonder how something like Tinder would have changed the outcome of…

The Naked Friendship

“Edit your life frequently and ruthlessly – it’s your masterpiece, after all” is a great quote from author Nathan W. Morris. I wonder, should we include friends in this ritual cull? It seems like a harsh sentiment but if we grow out of an outfit or a hairdo then surely we also grow out of friendships.

Hello, I’m a bad person

That’s right, you heard me: I’m a bad person. I’ve done all the bad things. Cheating, littering, being a bitch, stealing flowers from people’s gardens, sometimes smoking cigarettes, chucking sickies. All of it! I’m bad baby.

In praise of nakedness

“I’m going to promote myself exactly as I am, with all my weak points and my strong ones. My weak points are that I’m self-conscious and often insecure, and my strong point is that I don’t feel any shame about it.” – Patti Smith Last week I went to see the Nude exhibition at the…

When things are not alright

There are days, weeks and months when people like me can really struggle, and I know I’m not alone. I have trouble finding the point of it all on a regular basis. I have trouble feeling good about myself on a regular basis. Busy, tired and a little uninspired, life can sometimes get you down,…

On beauty: Part one – Botox and the Pretty Filter.

I’ve been watching a lot of movies from the 80’s recently, taking particular note of the female leads. Jennifer Grey. Sean Young. Anjelica Huston. Ali Magraw. Meryl Streep. Great performances, incredible stage presences, legendary films. Watching, though, I can’t help but wonder if any of them would get a role in a Hollywood film in…

I once stole a self-help book

“I just want to be happy”. It’s a pretty familiar sentiment, and one that seems so achievable, so modest. Surely everyone has a right to be happy? There are countless articles, both scholarly and otherwise, tracking the paths to happiness, studies devoted to it, books promising it, inspirational quotes urging towards it. But most of…

Forget Wellness: Practice Self-Care Instead

This is not a self-help post. This is not a post about how to achieve the best version of you. Nor is it about how to achieve all your dreams by setting #lifegoals or meditating your way to millions. By reading this post, you are not going to learn how to get the body of…

Write Your Own Ending

A friend recently had the most delightful suggestion for herself, myself and the third spoke in our wheel. She was sick of waiting around for a guy to take her on a nice date, or for a wedding to come along so that she could dress up and feel a sense of occasion, so she…

Being a person that writes things

God forbid I actually call myself a writer. That would be delusional, right? And people might know that I really want to be a writer, that I have that ambition and that I think I’m actively pursuing it. How dare I. No, I’ll just be a person: a business development lead, a girlfriend, a clean…

Things they don’t tell you about being thirty

Before I turned thirty, I heard people talking about how terrible it is and how afraid they were of ageing all the time. Dirty Thirty. You’ve seen people do it – the roll of the eyes, the sigh, the birthday blues. Accordingly, I decided that I was also terrified of turning thirty, because being old is…